That time I was on Glam.com talking about intimidation both the + kind and the – kind…. it is true “resting bitch face ” can make someone look intimidating & I only work with nice people !
Claudine DeSola, Co-Founder LIVARI, Founder Caravan Stylist Studio
What does it mean to you to be “intimidating” as a woman?
“When I think of intimidating I think of a few scenarios. It could be seen as someone that is unapproachable but also it could be seen as someone that maybe knows more than the other, someone with more experience, or a higher title. I also think some celebrities could be intimidating because you watch them on TV, listen to their music or read their books and you are so excited to meet them and that excitement can turn into intimidation. I think in some senses it could be negative like that person makes the other feel awkward or is a bully and others feel intimidated or it could be a positive because you are so awestruck by someone or maybe you waited so long to meet them that you were intimidated when you finally do meet them. I also think that body language can cause intimidation where someone doesn’t even say anything but their body language or their ‘resting bitch face’ can be intimidating.”
Has anyone ever told you that you are intimidating?
“Yes, I have been told that I was intimidating during interviews or in presentations. I think in the past I let stress take over sometimes and I took things a lot more serious and I think that my seriousness read ‘intimidation.’ I also think that when you meet with new people that sometimes they are just nervous on their side for an interview so you can be super nice but they might still be intimidated to meet you. I do practice mindfulness a lot more these days and just try to be chill. I learned there is nothing in life that you should overstress about especially if there are ways to control the outcome. I live life as an experiential marketer and creative with some crazy ideas and sometimes people are going to love them and some people are going to laugh behind your back. Now I just laugh back—if you don’t like my idea I just keep moving along. I also think I am a bit more aware of my facial expressions in meetings and try to just really tap into my chill aura so I am just more approachable. I am really interested in human interaction as a marketer that works with social influencers but IRL experiences at my studio so I want those interactions to be genuine and balanced If someone is intimidated by the other person then there is no balance.”
What do you do when you find yourself feeling intimidated by another woman?
“I have definitely been intimidated before I would say on job interviews, on panels, and especially sometimes during that first ten minutes of meeting a new celebrity client or fashion designer. I find that sometimes it is in my head and I need to stay grounded. I have been fortunate to work with a lot of amazing actresses, musicians, athletes, models and fashion designers over the years from styling to producing their fashion shows. Sometimes I have definitely been intimidated during my first encounter with someone and it isn’t just that they are a name–it is sometimes the mix of because who they are, who they know, what they have done and how much of your work is going to reflect on them. I thinking knowing your work is going to be seen and discussed with others is intimidating because you worry about failure. There is a lot of pressure and the pressure could make you feel intimidated. In those cases, you are intimidated by the scenario not by the person. I have definitely been nervous on my first meeting with some of my celebrity clients and after ten minutes I take a breathe and remember that they hired me for a reason and to pull it together. I also look into everyone’s eyes. I think if you look away it will show you are intimidated or uncomfortable. I also have a rule, ‘I only work with nice people.’ I will never work with someone that makes me feel bad or intimidated in a negative way.”
See the whole article here with 6 other ladies chatting about WHAT IT MEANS TO BE AN INTIMIDATING WOMAN … https://www.glam.com/what-it-means-to-be-intimidating-woman/